No Better Time but the Right Now Time – Family Stories
[l-r] Felicia, Cecilia & Esther Munoz circa 1932 Courtesy of Ermalinda Espinoza |
The very thing that I want, is the very thing that has made me reluctant. I want to know more about my maternal ancestry, however, I have dragged my feet in connecting with the very people that can and may be willing to share information with me.
Being adopted can have its disadvantage in pursuing a family reunion. My reluctancey and insecurity has become a challenge in speaking with one of the elders of my maternal line. I was really unsure as to what their reaction would be towards me.
Four months ago, my Aunt Priscilla gave me my Aunt Felicia aka Alice’s number. Alice is my maternal grandmother’s sister. I was thrilled, and knew that it was imperative that I contact Aunt Alice, as her health had been declining. Knowing this, I still didn’t call her until today. When she answered the phone and I told her who I was, her reaction was welcoming and she acted as if my absence had not been an issue.
We did some small talk, and then I asked her one question, “Did you ever live in Arizona?” She said yes. She lived in Arizona until her father passed away. She had just graduated from high school and went to work in San Pedro, California to work in a cannery, where one of her aunts worked. She said her mother had it very hard after her husband died as she had nine children that she had to care for, and the youngest was a baby. The older children worked to help support their mother and their family.
Aunt Alice and I agreed that we would keep in contact…I believe that she is ninety.
Note: My mother Ermalinda scanned some photos for me, so that I would have something to write about. I want to publically thank her for her kindness. [Photo is of my Two Grand Aunts and my Grandmother, only Aunt Alice is living.]
11 Comments
Ann Hinds
The time is always right. Take advantage of the contact. My husband is adopted and we waited too long to get all the information so it took a long time to get to where we are now. It's great that you had the courage to call.
Andrea Kelleher
Awwwe, look at their faces! So cute. What a wonderful photo. I have struggled too with making those necessary phone calls with folks. I always seem to find a way to talk myself out of it or that I'm too busy…or whatever. I get nervous sometimes. I have to remind myself to get over it and just do it. Thanks for sharing!
Delores
Great connection.
Yvette Porter Moore
You are so right Andrea. It is really sad when we wait too long and the person leaves this earth and we have not called.
Yvette Porter Moore
Thank you for reading my post. 🙂
Yvette Porter Moore
That is what I fear…waiting to long. Thank you for your comments.
True Lewis
Sometimes all it takes is a phone call….Glad you reconnected and got some more family history.
Kristin
I'm glad you made the call. And the little girls are beautiful!
Yvette Porter Moore
Yes, sometimes you need some guts…lol
Yvette Porter Moore
Thank you Kristin. So glad I made that call.
Jana Last
Yvette,
I want you to know that your blog post is listed in today's Fab Finds post at http://janasgenealogyandfamilyhistory.blogspot.com/2014/04/follow-friday-fab-finds-for-april-4-2014.html
Have a wonderful weekend!